The Quiet Money Legacy You’re Meant to Break
Are You Willing to Break the Rules Your Family Taught You About Money?
If you want a new relationship with money — one that’s grounded, spacious, and aligned with who you really are — there’s one question you can’t avoid, “Are you willing to break ranks with the people who taught you who you were supposed to be?”
It sounds dramatic, I know. But after years of doing this work with thoughtful, spiritually-minded women, I’ve found that this is the quiet but essential turning point. Because no matter how many books you read or spreadsheets you fill out, if part of you is still — even unconsciously — trying to stay loyal to your family’s narrative regarding money — your own healing will only go so far.
Maybe this sounds familiar.
Perhaps you want more ease with money. Or you want to feel capable. You want to stop swinging between fear and avoidance. You want to believe — deep down — that you are worth the life you dream of.
But every time you get close, you sabotage yourself in some way:
Maybe you undercharge, or you overspend. You might hesitate to ask for what you need. You feel guilty about wanting more. You say yes to obligation and have to say no to your desires.
And if you trace that pattern back far enough, you’ll likely find it didn’t start with you.
What We Inherit (And Why It’s Hard to Let Go)
Families — and communities — hold shared stories about who they are, and what they believe. And money is often one of the most powerful ways those stories get expressed and passed on. Money can act as the glue that holds families together — a way of showing care, loyalty, or shared values.
Sometimes the messages are loud and obvious. But more often, they’re subtle — absorbed through tone, reaction, silence, or expectation. We internalize them before we ever get the chance to question them.
Rich people are selfish.
Working hard is a virtue. Wanting ease is lazy.
You get what you get.
Good girls don’t talk about money, let alone ask for more!
We don’t always hear these things outright. We feel them. We notice what’s rewarded, what’s frowned upon, what no one talks about. Over time, those messages become part of the air we breathe and the water we swim in — inherited stories that shape not just how we relate to money, but how we relate to ourselves.
And because it’s unconscious, it’s easy to think we’re failing. That we just lack discipline or clarity. When in truth, part of us is still trying to stay loyal to the version of ourselves our family would recognize and love.
This Isn’t About Blame. It’s About Self-Responsibility.
You didn’t ask for the messages you received. And you’re not wrong for wanting more.
But at a certain point, if you want a different experience with money — if you want a new story for yourself and those who come after you — you have to be willing to say no to the one you inherited.
That can mean being misunderstood. It might mean being called selfish or greedy. It might mean becoming the one in the family who “thinks she’s better.” It might mean feeling alone in a room full of people you love.
I won’t sugarcoat it: that can be painful. But it’s also what makes freedom possible.
What Choosing a New Money Legacy Looks Like
When I finally chose to unravel the scarcity and survival programming I grew up with, I didn’t know how disorienting it would feel. I didn’t know how many emotional threads I’d need to untangle. How many times I’d question if I was doing the right thing.
But I also didn’t know how deeply satisfying it would be to feel at home in my financial life — on my own terms.
I am now a woman who enjoys prosperity. Who makes conscious choices. Who can hold power and peace at the same time. That is radically different from the world I was raised in — and it’s a legacy I’m proud to live into every day.
This is the kind of shift I guide women through in my work.
It’s not a quick fix or a budgeting bootcamp. It’s a deep, supportive, and spiritually honest experience that helps you untangle inherited beliefs, regulate your nervous system, and choose a relationship with money that actually fits who you are now — not who you were taught to be.
It’s for the woman who’s ready to stop waiting for permission and ready to belong to herself. For the woman who is ready to start living her values — not just surviving her circumstances.
You Might Be Wondering
“But what if I lose connection with my family? What if they don’t understand?”
That fear is real. And it deserves compassion.
But here’s what I’ve found: when you choose self-responsibility over inherited loyalty, you don’t have to cut ties. You just shift the terms of connection. You get to build new boundaries and relate from a place of truth, instead of self-abandonment. You get to become someone your family might not have imagined — but that doesn’t mean you love them any less.
Sometimes you lead by example. And sometimes, quietly, they begin to follow.
You Get to Choose
The cost of transformation is real. But so is the cost of staying in a story that no longer fits you.
You don’t have to wait for someone else to say it’s okay. You can start living as the woman you want to be — one clear, conscious choice at a time.
Shifting Your Money Legacy is Sacred Work
You deserve care, attention, and support that meets you where you are. This is the work of Get Right with Money®. And even though it doesn’t open again until January, you don’t have to wait to begin this shift.
If something surfaced for you as you read this — even if you’re not sure exactly what — I’d love to talk with you.
