Committed to Clarity: My Relationship with Money
There was a time when I avoided looking at my bank account.
Even as a former CPA — even as someone who should have known better — I would log in to my banking app with my breath held, or not open it at all. There was a low-grade panic I couldn’t explain, and a persistent sense that whatever was in there... wasn’t enough. That I wasn’t enough.
Now I firmly believe — from my own experience and through years of supporting women like you — is that this isn’t just about the numbers. It’s about our relationship with money.
And like any important relationship, it can’t flourish in avoidance, fear, or dissociation.
For spiritually grounded women, the relationship with money is rarely just about income or expenses. It’s about long-held stories around worth. It’s about patterns that were inherited, not chosen. It’s about what we were taught to believe we could have — or should settle for.
And for many of us, money has become a mirror we avoid looking into.
But I propose a different path with you and your money.
You can be in lock step with your money. You can know where you stand — clearly, kindly — whether the news is good or not so good. You can make wise, values-aligned choices because you're grounded in the truth of your finances, not afraid of them. You can experience peace, even in moments of uncertainty.
This isn’t about perfection or control - it’s about connection.
So how do you begin to build that kind of relationship with money — one that holds you rather than haunts you?
The most sustainable change comes through slow, steady engagement, moving at a pace that works for you. Not through spreadsheets or willpower, but through presence, curiosity, and care.
Three Practices to Connect with Your Money
1. Spend time with your money — regularly and with care
I spend time with my money every day. Not because I have to. But because I’ve come to want to.
Each morning, I check my balances. I look at what’s come in and what’s gone out — not with judgment, but with curiosity. I notice what feelings arise. Sometimes they’re tender. Sometimes they surprise me. But I don’t rush past them - I let them be there, and I meet them with as much compassion as I can.
Then I ask: What’s the next wise step? Not the perfect one. Just the next step that honors both my values and my reality.
This small daily ritual — which might take all of five minutes — has changed my life. It’s changed my clients’ lives, too. Because when we stop running from the numbers, we stop running from ourselves.
And I assure you, when you’re willing to show up — not just once, but regularly — something softens. The fear begins to quiet and the confusion clears. Clarity, which once felt so out of reach, starts to feel normal.
2. Begin to recognize your money legacy
Most of us don’t arrive at adulthood with a clean slate when it comes to money. Most of us carry wounds, narratives, and behaviors that were handed down — sometimes explicitly, often silently. These are what I call legacy beliefs. They shape how we earn, spend, give, and save. They inform our sense of what’s possible. And they usually go unquestioned.
Until they don’t.
Part of developing a conscious relationship with money is beginning to notice what you’ve inherited. Maybe you were taught that wanting more is greedy. Or that you had to work hard — constantly — to earn your place. Or maybe money was always a source of stress in your home, and now you avoid it without quite knowing why.
There’s no blame here. We must bring curiosity and compassion to the table.
Your relationship with money now — and in the future — is yours to cultivate. And you cannot choose differently until you see what’s been driving you.
Bringing those wounds and narratives into the light is not a one-and-done event. It’s a practice. But with each layer you uncover, will offer you a little more freedom, which becomes the foundation for a new way of being with money — one that’s rooted in truth, not legacy.
3. Forgive what’s come before and choose what comes next
You may be in debt. Maybe you’ve been undercharging or overspending. Maybe you’ve ignored your finances altogether.
Whatever it is, it is only one part of your story. But it isn’t the whole of it.
Beating yourself up won’t bring you closer to change. But choosing to see — with honesty and compassion — what’s true right now? That’s a tender and powerful starting point.
What would it feel like to offer yourself a kind of amnesty? To call a truce with the past — not to excuse it, but to stop using it as a weapon against yourself? From this place, you can begin to build a new relationship with money. One built on respect, curiosity, and care.
Like any good relationship, it will ask something of you. Money will ask for your presence, your honesty, and your willingness to stay, even when it feels uncomfortable.
But what you receive in return is something most of us have been longing for: peace. Clarity. And the quiet confidence that comes from knowing you can trust yourself — and your money,
If you’re feeling resistance, that’s okay.
You might be thinking, This sounds like a lot to do every day… I’m not sure I have the capacity (let alone want to do this.)
That’s a very real and valid concern. What I often invite women to do is simply try it.
Take a deep breath and place your hand over your heart as you say hello to your money each morning. Just for a week. Notice how long it actually takes (often less time than you think). Notice how it feels to approach money with softness instead of shame.
You don’t have to do it forever - but you might find that you want to.
You + Money = Forever
When you’re in a relationship with your money — a real relationship — you’re no longer making decisions from fear or avoidance. You’re grounded in the truth of your resources. You see clearly where you stand.
And from there, things begin to shift.
You feel empowered, because you can make choices that are both wise and compassionate.
You feel peaceful, because you’re no longer carrying the weight of not knowing.
You feel clear, because you’ve stopped telling yourself a story — and started listening to what’s actually true.
If this speaks to you, you’re not alone.
This is the work of Get Right with Money®. And even though it doesn’t open again until January, you don’t have to wait to begin this shift.
If something surfaced for you as you read this — even if you’re not sure exactly what — I’d love to talk with you.
Let’s connect, you can get clear on what’s showing up for you around money, and explore what kind of support would feel most helpful right now.
You don’t have to figure it all out alone.
