Before You Try Another Money Strategy, Read This
The Myth of “When I’m Ready”
There’s a subtle myth many high-capacity, heart-led women are carrying — often without realizing it. It sounds something like:
“If I could just get through this hard season, I’ll feel ready.”
“Once I get my money situation figured out, I’ll finally feel secure.”
“After I do a little more work, earn a little more trust, fix this one more thing… then I’ll be able to rest, create, or go after what I want.”
At first glance, it sounds reasonable. Responsible, even. But underneath it? The scarcity wound talking.
The scarcity wound is not a pattern of thinking. It lives in our tissues — and it keeps women in overdrive, chasing enoughness like it’s a finish line they might someday earn.
The Hungry Ghost of Scarcity
In Buddhist teachings, there’s a powerful image that speaks to this: the hungry ghost. These beings are depicted with enormous bellies and tiny mouths — forever craving, never satisfied. No matter how much they take in, there is never enough.
Scarcity wounding is a kind of hungry ghost. It whispers that you’ll finally feel full if you just do more, have more, wait longer, or work harder. But here’s the truth: the scarcity wound doesn’t heal until we tend to what’s actually hurting.
In this post, I want to show you:
Why it’s so easy to believe the lie that you have to earn enoughness
How that belief keeps you stuck in cycles of striving and delay
What’s actually true underneath the myth
What becomes possible when you begin to shift
And what you can do, starting now — including how I support women in this inside Get Right With Money
Ready? Let’s begin.
Why You’ve Been Taught To Wait
Scarcity, in many ways, is real. I’ve seen it clearly in my time living in Zambia and traveling through Africa. The lack of clean water, food, healthcare, safety, education — it’s not abstract. I’ve seen it in The U.S. and Europe. It’s a lived reality for many people.
But there’s another layer of scarcity that’s harder to see — the internalized narrative that there’s not enough to go around — not just of money, but of support, time, rest, pleasure, love, safety. And not just of resources — but of you.
Even among women with stable incomes, careers, and full lives, I see the patterns that are evidence of scarcity wounding:
A nervous system that doesn’t know how to rest
A mind that constantly prepares for loss or disappointment
A lifetime of messages that told them to earn their worth through sacrifice
When you grow up in a family or culture that ties your value to what you do or how well you perform, the idea of being resourced, supported, and “enough” in the present moment feels foreign — even threatening. This myth — that you must earn your way out of lack — is reinforced by capitalism, colonialism, religious dogma, and patriarchal systems. It’s everywhere. So if you’ve internalized it, it’s not your fault.
But once you see it? You can begin to loosen its grip.
How The Scarcity Wound Quietly Runs the Show
Here’s how the scarcity wound shows up in day-to-day life — even when you’re doing “everything right.”
You keep postponing what you truly want, because you don’t yet feel “ready.”
You feel guilty when you take time for rest or pleasure — even when your body is crying out for it.
You give generously to others, but struggle to ask for what you need.
You tell yourself “once I get through this” — but the finish line always moves.
This is the trap: when you live from the myth that sufficiency is something you achieve, not something you inhabit, you stay in a cycle of scarcity overdrive. It’s exhausting. And it’s endless — unless you interrupt it.
What’s Always Been True (Even if You Forgot)
The truth is, your worth has never been up for negotiation. Not once. It doesn’t hinge on how hard you work, how much you earn, how selfless you’ve been, or how many times you’ve put yourself last to keep things running.
You don’t need to perform for your enoughness.
You don’t have to prove it.
You certainly don’t have to earn it.
Your body, your spirit, your wisdom — they’re not waiting to be fixed. They’re waiting to be trusted.
Scarcity tells you the solution is somewhere out there, just one more effort away. One more course. One more goal. One more late night. One more moment of self-denial. But healing doesn’t live in the next milestone - it lives in your willingness to pause, to soften, and to come back to yourself — again and again.
I know this not just because I’ve studied it, but because I’ve lived it. And I’ve walked with women who’ve lived it too — who were tired of chasing worth, tired of the tightrope, and ready to live from a place that felt more true.
And when they do? The choices they make begin to shift — not out of panic or pressure, but from something quieter. Something steadier. A kind of remembering.
They begin to say yes to what brings them joy — even if it makes no sense on paper. They stop apologizing for their prices, their rest, or their need for support. They let go of the old story that said they had to wait to feel ready, and they start living as though they are already enough — because they are.
And that changes everything.
What Shifts When You Stop Chasing
Here’s what I want you to know: you don’t have to wait for the wound to heal before you begin to live differently.
Healing is in the act of living differently. It’s in the pause. Healing is in the “no” you didn’t think you were allowed to say, and the full-body yes to something that delights you. Healing lives in the choice to sit down and write now, even if the laundry isn’t folded.
And one of the most powerful places to begin? Your relationship with money - because money is where the scarcity wound often takes deepest root.
That’s why I created Get Right With Money — not as a productivity hack or budgeting system, but as a sacred, healing, yet practical path to transform your relationship with money from fear-based to nourishing.
Inside Get Right With Money, we uncover the stories you inherited — not just the ones you learned intellectually, but the ones you absorbed in your body. We look at the emotional and energetic roots of your money patterns, and together, we practice new ways of relating to money that are rooted in your values — not your wounding.
You begin to receive differently. You begin to trust differently. You build something that feels sustainable and true.
This isn’t about controlling your money. It’s about coming into right relationship with it. With yourself. With your own enoughness.
But What If It’s Really That Hard?
“But what if my current situation really is scarce? What if I’m not making enough, or truly don’t feel supported right now?”
That’s a fair and honest question. Believe me, the scarcity wound is not about pretending real hardship doesn’t exist.
What it is about is helping you respond to those hardships from presence and power — instead of panic and collapse. It’s about learning to feel resourced internally, even when things feel tight externally. It’s about moving through your life with more capacity, not more control.
This kind of healing doesn’t erase challenge — but it changes how you navigate it.
Healing the scarcity wound is possible. And it’s work we don’t have to do alone.
If this post stirred something in you — if you're ready to stop chasing and start healing — you're invited to join me in Get Right With Money®.
This is sacred, necessary work. You don’t have to do it alone. And you don’t have to wait. Or, if you're not quite ready for that — I invite you to simply notice: Where is “not enough” still running the show in your life? And what might shift if you stopped believing it?
