When Receiving Feels Hard
Why Do You Block the Good?
You want more ease. More time. More money. More spaciousness and grace in your days.
And yet—when it’s offered to you, or even when it starts to flow toward you—something inside braces. You question it. You explain it away, block it, and you shrink.
So many women I work with feel the pull toward more—but when it comes time to receive it, there’s a quiet no in the body. A “not yet.” An “I shouldn’t,” or “I don’t deserve this.”
If you’ve felt that, I want you to know you’re not alone.
For sensitive, soulful women—coaches, creatives, therapists, healers—this is one of the most tender, frustrating, and deeply wired struggles we carry. You want to feel safe and supported. You want to believe you can ask for what you want and receive it. But something in you is holding back.
And no, it’s not just you. This is bigger than mindset, or journaling on abundance. This is a somatic, cultural, ancestral pattern—and it makes so much sense that it’s hard to unhook from on your own.
But when you can open to receive—it changes everything.
You welcome more goodness into your life. You feel supported and resourced, and you stop leaking energy trying to prove your worth or earn your place. You start to ask and expect in alignment with what you actually need. And you start to feel, in your body, that what you want is absolutely okay.
So let’s talk about receiving—not as a concept, but as a choice, a skill, and a practice.
Know What You Want
It might sound simple, but naming what you want—clearly, unapologetically, and without shrinking—is one of the hardest and most essential pieces of receiving.
If you can’t name what you want, you can’t say yes to it.
Many of us were taught that wanting is selfish and having preferences is frivolous. That needing more is needy. So we trained ourselves to quiet our desires in the name of gratitude or humility. So many women struggle to name and claim what they really want, so if you do, too, you are not alone.
Coming back to your own desire is an act of presence, of honesty, and self-trust. In the work I do with women around money, this is always one of the first doors we open—gently, compassionately, at the pace of you.
You don’t have to apologize for what you want or justify it. You don’t even need to know how it will come to you. You just need to be willing to name it.
2. Know What You Don’t Want (It’s OK to Say No)
Receiving isn’t about saying yes to everything. It’s about discernment. And discernment includes your sacred, sovereign no.
No to what depletes you, and pricing that doesn’t feel good. No to timelines that leave you breathless, or expectations that don’t fit your nervous system or your life. The flavor of no that isn’t cold or harsh, but protective, honest, and rooted in self-respect.
But for so many women—especially those who’ve been praised for being flexible and easygoing—no can feel like a risk. Like a rejection. Like you’re doing something wrong.
So you may have learned to say yes even when it meant abandoning yourself. That’s why healing your relationship with money requires space to explore this. To reclaim your no, and make it safe in your body. So you know that you can trust that every time you honor what’s not for you, you make space for what is.
3. Be Willing to Receive Without Bracing for Impact
Even when something good comes—a check, a compliment, a moment of rest—how quickly does your body tense?
We’re conditioned to believe that goodness is fleeting, or that there’s a hidden cost. We wait for the other shoe to drop. So even when we want to receive, we’re still holding back.
And here's something I want you to consider: Being open to receive doesn’t mean you have to take in everything.
This is often the hidden reason why women close off. Being open doesn’t just mean money and praise. It might also mean unwanted feedback, judgment, scrutiny, or projection. And if you’ve been on the receiving end of that too many times, your nervous system may have decided the safest option is to close the door entirely.
That’s a wise survival strategy. But it also means you’re not letting in the good, allowing in the support, appreciation, income, and care that you long for.
You get to decide what you receive. You can open—and still have boundaries. You can let praise land and let projections slide off. You can say yes to what supports you and no thank you to what doesn’t. That is the sovereignty of receiving.
In my work, this is a practice we return to over and over again, until it becomes something you don’t just understand—you feel it in your body. That quiet knowing: I am open to receive what is in alignment with my highest good. I choose what I let in.
“Ugh. I’ve done so much work around this.”
I know, sister. You’ve done the journaling. The visioning. The therapy. You’ve sat with the discomfort. You’ve opened, stretched, and softened. And the pattern is still here. You find yourself undercharging, overgiving, and deflecting when a client sings your praises.
That doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong - it just means you’re human.
Healing isn’t a finish line. It’s a spiral. We come back to the same places, but with more capacity. More self-trust. More grace. This work unfolds in layers, and each time we return to it, we’re different.
If something old is showing up again, it doesn’t mean you haven’t grown—it means you’re ready for a deeper layer of support.
Just a clear, kind invitation to keep going, that it’s time to look at this again with fresh eyes. Gently. With support.
What becomes possible when you open to receive?
When you build your capacity to receive, your relationship with money changes—but more than that, your whole life softens.
You stop hustling for every dollar, stop proving your worth, and start trusting what you need. You make decisions based on your capacity—not your conditioning. You feel more connected to your work, more spacious in your days, and more supported—internally and externally.
And yes, you begin to allow more money, more time, more help, more appreciation, and more breath to come in.
You stop surviving on breadcrumbs and start experiencing the feast of life.
Ready for a different relationship with money?
If what you’ve read here resonates—if you’re feeling a small but steady yes in your body—I’d love to talk with you.
Get Right With Money® is a trauma-sensitive, energetically healing, and deeply practical space for women who want to shift from scarcity to sufficiency—without bypassing the very real experiences that shaped your relationship with money.
There’s no perfect timing, no rush, and no pressure. This is simply an open door. If you’d like to have a conversation about where you are, what you want to be different, and whether this work might be the right next step—I’d love to hear from you.
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