Money can be one of the most charged and tender areas of our lives — not because we’re bad at it, but because it carries history, fear, and meaning far beyond numbers. Many women have done everything they were told would make money feel easier: learned the skills, tracked the data, tried to be “responsible.” And yet, something still feels unresolved underneath.

This piece explores why money often needs more than skill building, and how safety, regulation, and self-trust are essential foundations for any lasting change in our relationship with money.

When a woman says, “I don’t have the money for this,” it’s rarely just about the numbers. More often, it carries years of conditioning, fear, and learned protection in the body. This piece explores why that reflexive no shows up, what it’s really guarding, and how pausing with it — rather than pushing past it — can open the door to a more honest, grounded relationship with money.

By the time a woman arrives at Get Right With Money, she’s usually already tried everything she was told would help — mindset work, budgeting systems, financial skills — and still feels anxious or avoidant around money. This story follows Maya, a composite of many women I’ve worked with, and explores how avoidance isn’t a personal failing but a nervous system strategy — and what becomes possible when safety, presence, and capacity come first.