The Myth that Money Fixes Everything
There’s a quiet myth that many women hold onto — especially those of us who have done a lot of inner work, and still find ourselves circling the same familiar pain when it comes to money.
It doesn’t usually announce itself as a myth. This myth shows up sounding sensible — even responsible. It says: once I make more money, things will finally get better. Once I get out of debt, or once I raise my rates, or once I finally get a handle on my spending, then I’ll be at peace. Then I’ll feel like I’m enough. Then I can rest. Then I’ll feel safe in my life and in my body. Then I’ll be able to relax and trust myself.
On the surface, it makes so much sense. Money matters. It affects how we move through the world, how much care we can access, how much ease is available to us. It can create options and ease burdens. Of course it matters.
Money Matters, And Yet
But here’s where the myth quietly begins to take root: it tells us that money alone is what will heal the places inside of us that still feel unworthy, unsafe, uncertain, or ashamed. It tells us that if we just hit the right number, learn the right system, reach the right goal, then the fear will disappear. The patterns will dissolve. The weight we’ve been carrying will finally lift.
And while there might be temporary relief, it doesn’t last — because the ache underneath wasn’t about the money in the first place. But it’s hard to believe that, isn’t it?
Why This Myth Is So Easy to Believe
There’s a reason this myth runs deep. Scarcity underpins our economic system. Scarcity is something that lives in our intergenerational wounding, and it’s something that too many people have lived - even in the Western world. I’ve lived in places where true, devastating scarcity was everywhere. In Zambia, where I lived and traveled, scarcity wasn’t an emotional wound— it was woven into the daily rhythm of life. And here, too — in the U.S., in Europe — I’ve witnessed how scarcity shapes lives, limits access, and lives on in families and systems long after circumstances begin to shift.
But scarcity isn’t only material. For many women, it is inherited and internalized. It becomes the voice that says there’s not enough time, not enough space, not enough permission. Scarcity is the nervous system that doesn’t know how to rest, the body that remains braced. The mind that’s always bracing for the other shoe to drop. The pressure to be productive, generous, accommodating — all at once — or risk losing it all.
And in that kind of inner landscape, it makes sense that money becomes the promised land. We’re taught — directly and indirectly — that money is what will finally give us the freedom, ease, and dignity we’ve been craving. It’s no wonder we chase it. It’s no wonder we assume that once we have more of it, we’ll feel different inside.
But for so many women I’ve worked with — and I include myself here — that’s not what happens.
Because what’s actually happening has less to do with money, and more to do with the parts of us that never felt safe. The parts of us that still don’t feel safe.
How This Myth Quietly Runs the Show
When we believe that more money will fix everything, we often end up building a life that looks good on paper but still feels like a gut punch. We reach goals, hit numbers, and keep moving the finish line on ourselves. We feel the pressure to keep performing and never, ever mess it up — because the deeper fear is that if we do, it will all fall apart. Or worse: that we’ll be exposed as someone who doesn’t have it together.
This myth creates an exhausting moving target. We tell ourselves that once we hit a certain threshold — the income, the savings, the consistency — then things will change. But more often than not, we arrive there only to realize we’re still carrying the same fears and doubts.
And then, we blame ourselves.
We tell ourselves we should know better. We’ve read the books. Taken the courses. Used the spreadsheets. So why are we still stuck? Why does it still feel like something’s not working?
This is one of the most painful consequences of the myth: not only does it keep us stuck, it makes us feel like we’re the problem.
But you’re not the problem.
You’re carrying a wound that money, strategy, and hustle alone can’t cure.
What’s Always Been True
I say this gently, because I know it can be hard to hear: no amount of money will ever substitute for the healing work that your body is still asking you to do. You aren’t broken or behind, and no, you didn’t do anything wrong. But you aren’t going to feel safe just because your bank balance looks different.
Money can open the door and offer more spaciousness and, yes, ease. But safety, peace, and worthiness? Those live in the body. They live in the way we relate to ourselves and life when fear or uncertainty arise. They live in the tender work of making contact with the parts of us that are still waiting for care.
And yes, I believe healing is possible. But it doesn’t happen by overriding or bypassing; it happens by slowing down and tending to what’s here. By recognizing that there’s nothing wrong with you — you’ve been shaped by a world that taught you there would never be enough and you would never be enough. But it isn’t true.
What if you didn’t have to wait until the circumstances were perfect, the numbers were right, the strategy was solid?
What if you were allowed to begin now — as you are?
Stop Hustling for More
One of the most powerful places to begin looking at this pattern is with money — not because it’s the source of all wounds, but because it touches every part of our lives.
Which is why I believe money healing has to be holistic - somatic, emotional, psychological, spiritual, AND practical. It’s why I work with the body as the first portal — because trauma, and especially scarcity wounding, lives in the body. It’s frozen energy and imprinted memory. It’s a body that still believes something catastrophic will happen if you stop trying so hard.
So we begin with the body, gently.
We build relationship with the parts of you that are carrying old wounds. We bring in new support, not just skills but practices, rituals, and re-patterning.
Inside Get Right With Money, this is the healing work we do. Together.
Not to fix you because you’re not broken.
But to grow your capacity to be present, confident, and in right relationship with money — and with yourself.
But What If?
But what if I really am in a tough season? What if there truly isn’t enough right now?
That’s a real question that deserves an honest response.
This work is not about pretending things are fine when they’re not, nor is it about bypassing reality. It’s about locating your ground inside that reality — about deepening a sense of inner resourcing and agency that doesn’t depend on everything being okay externally.
There may be very real constraints. But how you relate to those constraints — how you hold yourself inside them — can change the arc of your story.
You don’t need to be “past” this to begin healing, and you certainly don’t need to wait for more to become someone who feels supported in your relationship with money.
You can begin now.
Are You Ready for Money Healing?
The Get Right with Money® Quick Start Guide gives you the foundational framework for this work: how to move from control to connection with money, how to tend to the nervous system patterns that keep you braced for loss, and how to finally feel safe enough to stay present with your financial reality.
The Quick-Start Guide includes: 15 pages of practices and reflections, plus two guided yoga nidra sessions—designed to help your body learn that money can be safe.
