The healing power of curiosity


The thorniest issues inspire the most powerful questions.

The very first question I asked my first coach was, "How can I possibly ask for payment to do something I love? Work that feels like a spiritual calling?"

This one question led me to answers and insights and healing that was extraordinarily powerful. Frankly, I remember it being a hard question to even ask, which was telling in and of itself. The shame I felt for even WANTING to make money doing work I loved was interesting to note.

In retrospect, what I love is that the mere asking of the question instantly made the issue less insurmountable. The question alone began unravelling the knots, taking me toward the answers.

Curiosity leads us from confusion to clarity.

Allowing yourself to be witnessed (or witnessing yourself) with loving curiosity offers extraordinary insight into where to go next. More questions? Or perhaps an inspired action. Maybe even parts of the whole that are asking to be welcomed back home to our heart.

A few months back, I wrote a list of questions money (and it's pursuit) have inspired me to ask over the course of my life.

In my 20's, money inspired questions like:

  • Is the money worth the hassle of this job?
  • What skills do I have that are valuable in the market?
  • Who else is hiring?

But more important questions have surfaced over the years. Questions like:

  • How much do I want to earn and why is that important?
  • Do I feel like I can generate the income I want?
  • What do I make money (or lack of it) mean about me?
  • What is enough? Will I know it when I see it?
  • What amount does my business need to contribute to my life?
  • Does carrying debt serve me and what I want most for myself?
  • What is the quickest, most effective way to pay off this debt?
  • Why does investing money feel so icky?
  • What steps do I take to become a woman who invests?
  • I wonder what feeling love and enthusiasm for my money would change?
  • What financial system will be a pleasure to use?
  • Do I really need that? Am I spending money mindlessly?
  • How can I meet my emotional needs without spending money?
  • What is the most satisfying way I can direct my funds?
  • What experiences do I want to have and how can money support me in making it happen?
  • How could I do x, y or z WITHOUT money?
  • Is my earning, spending and investing aligned with my values and priorities?
  • What really matters most to me? Am I making money an end instead of a means?

There are so many good questions.

Questions that will lead you back home to yourself. Questions that lead you to what you know and to the inspired action that feels delicious and moves you toward your desired outcomes.

The hallmark of a good question in the face of any thorny issue is that it opens you to possibility and leaves you inspired to continue. I'm not saying it won't take you into the shadows, because thorny issues and their questions can and will take you into the depths.

But you will not get stuck, as long as you stick to the inquiry with open-hearted curiosity. The questions will light your path, one question at a time.

Is there something that is wanting attention?

Maybe it's your money or what direction to take your business. Maybe it's about how you spend your time. Whatever it is, I would invite you to get quiet. Stand back a ways and get curious. What questions are being inspired by this situation?

Allow yourself to wonder, to follow the questions, to be an investigator of your experience. Let the questions take you on a journey home to yourself.

Let the power of curiosity support you and heal you. 



rebecca@altaredspaces May 1, 2014 12:44am

I am truly touched by this list of questions, Nona. There are some questions that have absolutely no impact on me. Those are the questions that have nothing to teach me, right. I'm not an "emotional buyer." "How could I do x, y or z without money?" doesn't tug at me because I do tons without money. But questions like "What financial system would be a PLEASURE to use?" Now that gets to the heart of something different for me. It takes me somewhere new. I have not fallen in LOVE with the business of my business. I love coaching and I'm great at it. But there is a business element in every entrepreneur's life. Until I find pleasure in that element of it, I think I'm holding myself back. Thank you for this gift.

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