Fear is not the Enemy

My truce with fear and anger was tenuous at best. 

Though I spend hours with clients, helping them ease into feeling their feelings and feel them in their bodies, it has always been with the understanding that we want to get our emotions to "go away" so we can get un-stuck and make better decisions.  That feelings must be felt (as annoying and inconvenient as that may be), but then we can move on to something better than the pesky feeling-state.

I was preparing for something that was making me really nervous and internally wobbly (trying to feel it so it would go away), and one of my wise coaches said to me, "Fear is not the enemy - it's just information.  What is your fear here to communicate to you?"

ALL of our emotions, even so-called 'negative' emotions, have powerful messages for us.

When my coach said this, I knew immediately that she was right.  And it is changing my relationship to emotions radically.

Just as important as our mind, just as important as our bodies, just as important as our spirit - our emotions, each of them, really deserve a sacred place at the table of the inner high counsel that helps guide us on our entrepreneurial and life journeys.

Our minds really can't do the job alone.

Oh, precious mind.  How quickly it can turn a thought around, how it can see the truth, how it can read, and reason and think big, juicy thoughts.  But alone?  Left to it's own devices? Running the whole show?  Disaster.  I did that for years in Corporate Accounting and ended up miserable, until I started taking some other sources of information seriously - specifically, my body and spirit.

But even then, as I willingly stepping onto the path of living my life a different way - learning to change my mind, honor my body, and listen to my spirit's deepest longing - I still treated my emotions like an unwanted, unworthy, step-child.

We need ALL of ourselves present and accounted for to create what we most long for.

Calling all of ourselves home, embracing all of who we are, is one of the most important guiding principles in my own life and business and in what I work with my clients to do.  I was astonished to realize my inadvertent focus on eliminating this essential part of our incredible wisdom.  I am grateful beyond belief to the energetic intentions, coaches, and books that conspire to continue leading me toward deeper healing, greater clarity, and a more complete acceptance and expression of ALL of who I am.

What is alive in you right now?

What stories are being spun by your mind about your ability to create a sustainable business?  What is your body helping you accomplish today?  What vision is your spirit really nudging you toward? What are your emotions telling you about the choices you are making and want to make for you, and your business?

Namasté to you, business yoginis!

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Sticking with intensity! You taught me that and I think about it every day! xx

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This is great. I think one of the advantages of getting older is knowing that when we have 'negative' emotions, especially fear, that those *are* important information. That we may not 'need' to be afraid but that there is probably a good reason that we are feeling that way and we need to understand that underlying reason. Is it coming from a place that's a lack of confidence/security (fear of change, fear of success/failure) - those are still valid in that we are really feeling them! Or are they signalling things we really do need to address - being ready for change, being ready to stretch. I see that there's a cycle in my business, a fear each time I take on something new but that's also what spurs me to work really hard to get the momentum going. And what about anger? There's a lot of fertile ground in anger.

My big one at the moment is just isolation - feeling like I'm not close enough to my business partners or my clients. So I'm trying to ask for what I need from my partners and spend more time with my clients. The isolation isn't imagined, it's real, and it's important to acknowledge and address it because it's a barrier to success. It's not easy to navigate but I'm trying to stick with it and hopefully the highs outweigh the lows overtime.

Thanks for the timely post!

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Jill, in fact!! What you said!! And yes, absolutely, anger holds so much information and wisdom for us -- it shows us where boundaries are needed as well as other really important information. I am SO glad you are stepping up in this situation to take care of yourself.

Sending you love, light, and joy, Nona

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@Jane: Thank you lovely one!!! I appreciate you stopping by... @Gail: Absolutely!! I'm looking forward to exploring this more in the Circle... xoxo

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Such a great practice, Jill. xoxo.n

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Once again I am loving your blog topics. So true about the emotional connection which connects us with our body and soul.

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Jane Breuss Aug 23, 2011 08:11pm

Nona, it makes me feel better just knowing you are on this planet. Someone else is out here paying attention to every word you write. Much love - Jane

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