Working with Money Fear

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Money and fear often go hand in hand

Somehow, we've gotten the message that fear is bad - that it is something to be avoided at all costs. SO many of the women I work with arrive with tremendous fear of money in different forms and variations. So the time felt ripe to write a post about fear and how to work with it in a way that actually works.

This is not a "Fuck Fear" post

Nope, it' s actually going to be a lot more empowering than that. Because frankly, I think it's ridiculous to believe that we shouldn't feel fear or that we should try and be fear-free. Why? Well, fear is hard-wired into your limbic system. So working with your fear, not pretending you don't experience it, is far more transformative than trying to escape it.

Fear isn't the enemy we make it out to be

I don't believe that we live in a world (or a body) where we can stop experiencing fear. The most powerful practice that I know to shift fear into something different is softening/leaning into/respecting/finding love for - the fear itself.  To learn to feel the fear, listen to it, AND keep moving forward.

The trick is to not let fear paralyze you, but to catalyze you. To heed the powerful, helpful message that your fear has for you and your financial future, which is best done by working with the energy of fear through love and appreciation, and  developing a respect for this powerful force.

There is nothing in any sort of rule book to indicate that to move forward we have to be fearless. In fact, I would say that actually, fear is a powerful ally as you take the leap toward your big vision.

Working with the Energy of Fear

  1. The first step is to recognize the fear and the thoughts that are racing through your mind. Often with money it's something along the lines of; I don't have enough, I'll never have enough, I don't want to look at my money, I'm not good with numbers, I hate asking for money... there are so many variations and themes related to money that are fear-based, but the first step is always to recognize what's happening.
  2. The second step is to say thank you. Yes, thank you.  Thank your mind for the input (whatever thought is racing through your mind) and then relax into your body and feel the sensation of fear. What does it feel like? Where do you experience it? Give your fear space to be what it is. I find that fear is usually trying to keep me safe (which is so sweet!) and/or has an important piece of information that I'm ignoring about moving forward. I give it my attention. I give it space. I listen. Then I say thank you and move forward.
  3. Finally, ask your fear (NOT your mind) what helpful message it wants to convey. Sometimes it's that a legacy belief needs to be released. Sometimes it's asking you to pay closer attention to something. Sometimes it's guidance to do something different. But know this: there is always a helpful message. Our emotions are part of an intelligence system that is far older, more intuitive and wise than we give it credit for. Seriously. Tune in - your brain definitely doesn't want that, but give it a try and see what kind of wisdom you glean.
  4. Take action. Once you listen to your fear and you know what requires some change and attention, start taking action. It may be simply acknowledging the fear for trying to keep you safe AND continuing to take the baby steps - or big actions that are needed. Or, it may be a course correction based on the information your fear provides. Fear absolutely becomes paralyzing when we fail to heed the call. Remember, if fear is asking something BIG of you, it also provides the built in focus and energy to help you take the steps you need to take in this moment.

Take the Leap and Love the Fear

Listen up. I've dealt with this kind of crushing fear - and it still comes up. The main difference is that I work with it, not against it. The BEST way to shift fear into a productive and powerful force is through love. If not love, then a recognition and a respect for the helpful message that fear is trying to convey to you and taking the practical steps that are an act of love for you, and your financial future.

I would invite you to experiment with loving - and listening to - your fear. What shifts when you engage with the energy instead of trying to escape from it? Notice how much more powerful it is when you listen to the wisdom and teachings of one of your most powerful emotions.

7 comments

Sarah Novak Oct 17, 2013 10:58pm

God I love this Nona. You really summed it up so succinctly! I like to think of fear as a flashing yellow light that's calling me toward something instead of telling me to run.

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Nona, thank you for this clear, valuable guide to working with fear. I've never been a fan of the "crush your fear!" approach, but I like that you take it further by saying that there really, truly is lots we can learn from our fear. I'm tucking this into my pocket for use very, very soon.

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Love this post! I am trying to learn not to resist my fear but rather surrender to it, not in a giving up sort of surrender but giving way so that wisdom and light can find me thru the avenue of my fear. This way my fear can be a stepping stone instead of a stumbling block. Thanks for sharing these words

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Pleasure Reading 10.20.13 - Mara Glatzel Oct 20, 2013 02:04am

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I love that Sarah. Yes. A flashing yellow light...

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Makeda, thank you for commenting. I love this, "fear can be a stepping stone instead of a stumbling block." Yes.

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Kylie, thank you for commenting! I hope you find it valuable when it's time to pull it out of your pocket! XO

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