On the other side of fear

Money, and the conversations about it, can generate a lot of fear.

Last week, I shared about my own family getting bare around my husband's likely deployment to Afghanistan.  I have been reminded, again and again this week, that getting right with money and having bare conversations are practices that free up the kind of energy that can make a business thrive.

When we walk through the fear, miracles happen.

One participant of my last Get Right with Money program was SO committed to rewriting her money legacy. She was courageous in looking at her own story and actions.  Eventually, we got to Bare Accounting Conversations - about how to have sexy, full-disclosure conversations when you really want to run and hide.

She was sure that Bare Accounting Conversations were NOT for her. She had been tucking away some financial stuff from her husband and she wasn't planning on having THAT conversation until she had taken care of it.

Uh, she was scared shitless.

Yep, wow, I've been there.  Quaking in my boots, not wanting to get bare about my mistakes. But truly, she was ready. Her money legacy was shifting and she was clear on her true desires and the actions that would get her there.

Getting bare with her husband was a HUGE piece of her healing.

She knew that the talk with her husband was critical to her healing from, and moving beyond, her old money legacy.

Not incidentally, she had been struggling to bring in new clients (in a niche where there is an abundance of clients) - which made the conversation that much tougher. (Because how was she going to fix her financial mess without clients??)

In her conversation, she wasn't asking him to fix or mend it.

She was simply being bare with the man she loves. She chose to take a stand and claim her place as the master of her financial destiny. To affirm her clarity about who she is and who she is becoming in her business, with her money, with herself, and in relationship to her husband.

Her husband didn't call for divorce or yell at her.  They talked - and yes, he was upset.  So was she. But afterward, she felt amazing - like a huge weight had been lifted off of her shoulders.  She could feel all sorts of blocked energy freed up.

Just like that.

Hiding takes a LOT of energy.

Fear and resistance are very real obstacles between you and your true desires.

Hiding from money and finances and doing anything less than being bare with your money and in conversations saps your energy - developing clarity and peace with our own money legacy and OWNING the power to create the financial future we desire allows energy and focus to flow where it’s needed most - like building your dream business and working with your clients - instead of performing duck and cover maneuvers to avoid the difficult conversations or even look at the money.

Stepping through the fear leads to freedom.

It is a hero's journey to get right with money and have bare accounting conversations. This is ongoing work requires a willingness to take an undefended stance of truth and dignity, despite the resistance. Freedom lives on the other side of fear.

Since having the Bare Conversation with her husband four days ago, my gorgeous Get Right with Money yogini has found a well of free flowing energy that is fueling her business. Her creative juice is going.  Best of all, she has new clients knocking at her door like crazy, like never before.

Life-changing and business altering.

That is how important your relationship to your money, your work and your worth really is. That is how important having bare conversations really is.  Doing this work is about owning your power, and claiming freedom to create the financial future you truly desire.

Move through the fear and on the other side, you will find freedom.  Step forward and dive in - yogini.

I'll be there, cheering you on.

Namasté, business yogini!

Posted on April 12, 2012 and filed under Get Right with Money, Money & Worth.