Bragging Rights

My daughter has great friends.

We are blessed to live in a great neighborhood with lots of girls Clara's age.  Yesterday, Clara went to a birthday party with some of her favorite girlfriends and I ran into the birthday girl's Mom this morning as I was walking the dog. I was getting the debrief from this Mom and we were talking about how the girls talk to each other.  As an example of a conversation between the girls, the Mom told me that as the girls were heading to the party, Clara was talking about something she had done and another girl said to her, "You are bragging."

Apparently, Clara backpedaled.

She retracted her statement and became apologetic about what she had said about herself.  This made me incredibly sad and then, angry.  I wished I had been in that car for that drive - what a great opportunity to talk to all of those girls about owning their brilliance.

Why do we do this to our girls? 

You know that little girl has heard that from some adult in her life. That somewhere along the line - maybe many times - that girl has come home and said, "I did THIS!" Wanting to share with the adults she loves just how accomplished she is getting - but getting back, "THAT is bragging."

Forget that.

We give boys bragging rights and encourage them to own how awesome they are - as we should.  I am hell-bent on making sure my daughter gets the same. If people don't like her confidence, they aren't worth her time.  I just hope my voice, her Dad's voice, and the voice of my friends who love her dearly, are loud enough to drown out the echo of her peers who don't get the benefit of adults who encourage their girls to own their incredible gifts and talents.

As a culture we start beating the confidence out of our girls early, don't we?  We start asking them to hush up and be modest.  We tell them, albeit subtly, that standing up and owning their brand of awesome will be frowned on, that no-one will like them if they are confident, secure, and sure of themselves.

That is NOT a recipe for success.

Wilferd Peterson has said, "Let your light shine." I have struggled with that, my clients struggle with it - how to stand up and say, "I am valuable and I have something important to say. Who I am and what I do is worth it, I deserve to be paid well to share my greatness with the world. I can make anything happen - Anything. I. Choose."

I've spent thousands of dollars and cried a trail of tears trekking back to the place where I can BRAG about how awesome I am.  And I'm still not always there (by a long shot, yoginis).  Though I am ever-grateful for the journey, my hope is that by doing my own work and helping a generation of women stand up and celebrate their gifts as business owners, that my daughter and her generation can get to a whole new level of leadership to create lasting, global transformation.

That is the legacy I aspire to. 

I am crossing my fingers and toes that I will be in the room the next time a little girl says something like that to another girl.  I can't wait to ask each girl to brag on herself - to celebrate how utterly awesome she is in so many ways.  May that conversation echo through the years of these girls lives and may it also echo in yours - make no mistake, your daughters need you to brag large and loud, as does the world.  Please, please do.

Start today, start now.

Namasté to you, business yoginis!

Nona Jordan

I'm Nona Jordan: master certified coach, energy worker and former CPA. I support coaches, healing practitioners, and creative entrepreneurs who are ready to discover the wealth within themselves. I match your fierce commitment with loving support and visionary inspiration to help you chart a course for financial and business success through clear vision, inspired action and play (yes, play). When you embody the power of your true nature you lay claim to a way of living that is incredibly meaningful and aligned with the truth of who you are and the life you are here to live.