Hold the Vision

At two points in my life, I stopped drinking: first, when I was 18, sickened by my decisions and the hold that alcohol had on me. By ultimatum, I attended Alcoholics Anonymous and stayed sober for five years. My motivation was escaping the destructiveness I experienced in myself: the poor choices, the darkness, the desire to be numb. 

Sometimes, resisting something is enough. Certainly, it was enough to keep me sober for 5 years.

However, the second time I got sober I was again sickened by my decisions and the mess my life had become. But this time, I wanted something better. My motive wasn't to escape myself, but to become the person I knew myself to be. I didn't know what, exactly, that would look like, but I knew it existed, I knew in my heart I was better than my behavior. 

The ease with which I was able to stop drinking the second time taught me a valuable lesson: moving toward a vision is far more potent than fighting against what you don't like. 

The courage to see beyond the chaos

My sense is that we are standing at an opening-- in my mind's eye, it looks like a large cave with an opening to the light. Between you and I and that opening stands a dying system of power. What that means to me (and what it looks like) are people and structures making decisions that are creating chaos as they try and roll us back into an old way of being. 

This, and their ideas, are old news. Obviously. Look at the response of people around the world -- the strength of our conviction that black lives matter, that the environment matters, that women are sovereign beings who are in charge of their own bodies and their own voices, that immigrants are vital to our economy and welcome here, that separation of religion and state is desirable and necessary and let's not forget that the truth matters. The truth and actual facts matter very much to a majority of people. 

Ghosts

What you are seeing are ghosts -- they appear real, they appear solid but they are not. The reason they appear to have any power is the fear and anger and accusation that many of us are sending their way by buying into the chaos, and reacting to their unbelievably hateful and destructive actions. In my mind's eye, it appears that the more attention the old structure receives through fear and anger and disbelief, the more real it appears. 

It's so difficult to see what is happening, to acknowledge it and not react in a way that gives the ghosts more energy and power. However, when we react in kind with anger, disdain and us vs. them language and energy, we perpetuate the same dynamics over and over. 

I, for one, am ready for something different. Are you?

In Tension: the power of using tension for change

To have an intention is to be in tension -- to want one thing and to not be there....yet. To even know that you are in tension, you must have a vision for where you want to be. This is a most powerful and potent act. I believe that what is happening can clarify your vision: what do you see beyond the ghosts? What world do you believe exists beyond the opening where they stand guard?

And beyond the wall of ghosts? Beyond, I see light. I see equity, justice and Truth. I see respect for all beings and a world community working in partnership with the earth instead of against ourselves by trying to extract every single "valuable" particle from our beautiful planet. 

We have a choice in every moment that something hateful and horrible happens - to rail against it in anger, giving the ghosts more power or, we can see what's happening, acknowledge that this is an old story that very few people believe in and allow it to break our hearts open and clarify our vision. This in turn will strengthen our action on behalf of the world we wish to create beyond the opening. 

If you and I can hold the vision for the just and equitable and safe world that is possible for all; then the old paradigm and it's limited remaining power will, in time, dissolve. Like water against stone -- the water does not see the stone and become angry that the stone stands in her path -- the water flows around the stone and eventually dissolves any resistance as she continues to flow to her final destination.

Hold the Vision

What kind of world do you wish to live in? Hold the vision for that world, and move into action - the action that is meaningful for you. 

Stay rooted in the center of your heart -- now is the time to nurture your connections and your community. Commit to your work in the world with increased passion. Dance and sing and cry. Eat well, travel, delight in the world, and honor the earth. Make love to your life. As I watch us live fully, holding the vision and acting with the strength of our convictions, I see power and energy draining away from the ghosts, freeing up the opening. Your lived joy and commitment to the vision you hold weakens them and strengthens you - strengthens us all, which will help move us into the world we wish to create beyond the ghosts. 

It is in holding the vision with fierce love for the planet and for all beings on this planet, that our power becomes like the ocean - an unstoppable force for change.

Finally, let us be like water.

Flow around the obstacles and see beyond what is before you. Trust that in the power of flow, the seemingly immovable object is dissolved and becomes part of the water itself. We will move through the opening to a new world. 

Whatever part you are playing, I honor you. Thank you to the reporters and truth tellers, thank you to the analysts, thank you to the warriors. Thank you to those coaching and working with the traumatized. Thank you to the immigration lawyers and those who are standing tall for civil rights. Thank you to the water protectors and those who link arms between the bulldozers and the land. Thank you to those who are donating money and quietly making calls. Thank you to those of you who are drumming and dancing and calling your neighbors together to share a meal. I honor you. I thank you. 

I believe in you. I believe in us. No matter how long it takes. 

And I believe we can hold the vision and move over the threshold, together.  

xo.nona


Posted on February 9, 2017 and filed under Medicine Vision, True Nature, Must-Read, Grit and Gumption, intention.

The Ways of Wild Wealth

The word "wealth" can trigger some strong reactions. 

Three years ago, when I began talking about my own path, and my work, as the path of Wild Wealth - a dear friend told me that she was completely turned off by the word wealth, which I found fascinating. We had a long discussion about what wealth is, and what it is not. 

(She eventually came around to my way of thinking.)

In our society, wealth is associated primarily with financial wealth -- but the root of the word wealth is "weal" which, according to Merriam Webster is, "a sound, healthy, or prosperous state." It also held strong ties to "commonweal" which is, "the happiness, health, and safety of all of the people of a community or nation."

So wealth in it's truest form is operating from a sense of wholeness to create and amplify prosperity for yourself and for others. Wealth is something that you already are and something that you can create more of -- it is not something to "have" or acquire. Wealth is innate and instinctual. 

Money is a front man. 

As I turned my attention toward understanding wealth, I realized some very important things. Namely, that society dictates that you should be focused on money as the source of wealth. Meaning you are encouraged to look to something outside of yourself to define your sense of worth and your state of wealth.

This is incorrect thinking. Wealth is, most simply, resources - both individual and shared. When wealth is realized as something that is innate (you are filled with resources just being who you are), it can be cultivated in sustainable ways. In that way, it amplifies wealth for everyone - not just a few people. 

That is why I believe so deeply in the work of The Wild Wealth Collective for women in business. When we are steeped in a sense of our own wealth, it supports a sound and sustainable business and a beautiful, joyful life that amplifies wealth personally and collectively.

Bring on the Wild Wealth

So if wealth is about resources, what is the wild all about? 

When I shifted my attention away from money as my primary focus, here is what I noticed -- the qualities within you and I that constitute the vast and abundant resources that we have to work with are most often disregarded and dismissed and trained out of women, in particular.

These are the exact qualities that need to be liberated, that are the very heart of your Wild Wealth: strong emotions, definitive opinions, an insistent voice, courageous integrity and tenacity, claiming the rhythms and cycles of rest and action and trusting yourself and what you know 100%. 

Wild is the untamed and the subdued, that which is not valued in polite society. I'm here to tell you sister, that the qualities of your Wild Wealth, liberated, are your currency - they are YOU, present and alive and engaged. They are the resources that amplify every area of your life because they are the hallmark of finally, blessedly, knowing you are (more than) enough and you ARE the embodiment of wealth in this very moment. 

What happens when you liberate your Wild Wealth?

  • You step up and stop hiding your wealth of creative expression, even when it's scary. 
  • You are committed to being on your own side: taking care of your most precious resource, you. 
  • You create the work and the life that you truly want, not the one you think you should create. 
  • You stop apologizing and start speaking the Truth.
  • You seek out, and connect with, people and relationships that celebrate you and your authenticity. 
  • You connect with, and trust, your deepest soul knowing. 
  • You claim pleasure and desire and instinct as valid ways of moving through the world. 
  • You magnetize your right business and amplify your financial flow as a result. 
  • You cry. You get angry. You dance with joy. You are honest. You are fully engaged with the beautiful, and often messy business, of your whole life including meaningful work. 

Each of these things taken individually is amazing and transformative. I see the women I work with courageously living into their Wild Wealth every day, living with a fuller connection to the wealth that is theirs and creating work and lives with more joy, more power, more connection and more inspired, deliberate action that creates wealth for them and for those in their communities. It's beautiful. 

You are the embodiment of wealth. 

Right now. More than anything, I would love for women around the world, including you, to wake up and know this. I want you to know and celebrate your Wild Wealth - to live it and express it in all the ways. To appreciate the vast resources that are within you as a woman, as a creator, as a unique and beautiful human with free will. As a woman who has experienced hardship and great joy, who has felt broken and has felt completely whole. 

You - all of you and your experience - are gold. All of it is part of the Wild Wealth that you are, and is vital for your work and for the world.  

You are Invited. 

I would love to have you join me, and the amazing group of women who are gathering to explore the ways of Wild Wealth. We begin in less than two weeks. And if that doesn't speak to you, I would invite you to turn toward yourself with a fresh gaze and to look for the innate wealth of resources that you possess. I would love for you to live into appreciating and celebrating all that you are and to recognize your unique nature as the very heartbeat of wealth. 

Because sister, that's what I know to be true. 

xoxo.nona

Posted on October 18, 2016 and filed under Body Breath Soul, Being an entrepreneur, intention, Money & Worth, Must-Read.

The Feminine Path of Mastery

I attended a yin yoga teacher training recently.


I did the training to celebrate completing my breathwork healer certification and because Kari Kwinn is my favorite yogini as well as a dear friend, and because I adore yin yoga - it's pretty much the only style I practice with regularity.

As Kari Kwinn says, "Yin is an intention." which to me means it's not necessarily about choosing outcomes or what it looks like, but it's about how we show up for the practice - heart and mind open, willing to listen deeply and attune to our own wisdom.  This is the journey of my life. 

My yoga practice for many years reflected my beliefs and values that yang is preferable, always. The belief that action, movement, busy-ness and growth is what we should *always strive for is pervasive in our culture and it was evident in how I practiced yoga, how I moved my body, ate, engaged in relationships, ran my household and definitely how I approached my work for many years. 

Until I was exhausted, anxious and burnt-out. I had even managed to recreate the same environment of push, strive, and overwork when I started my own business. 


This kind of ethos looks powerful, but it's fragile.
 

Which means it's weak.

About 8 years ago, life conspired in my favor and the old way of "business as usual" no longer worked, as happens for MANY people in our society driven by external measures and quick fixes. Life circumstance, wisdom from many teachers in my life and my physical body all put me on the path to begin changing my approach to life, to myself, and to my work -- to seek a more sustainable and rhythmic way of moving through the world.

"Yin is an intention..."

I view the work I offer to you as deeply rooted in yin energies which are sorely lacking and desperately needed in the world. I've found with my clients, and for myself, that as women, we must be deeply rooted in yin in order to express yang energy in a way that is in integrity, body and soul.


This is a feminine approach to mastery


Pushing harder is not the secret of success. Doing more for the sake of doing more is also not the secret. Being more and having more isn't going to being satisfying and meaningful either, taken out of context.

Instead, I advise the radical path of turning inward: listening and attuning to the action that is yours to take. Honoring the natural rhythms and flows of nature and the body as a path to sustainable energy and action. Engaging in delicious practices that deeply nourish. Embracing and feeling the depth and breadth of emotions as deep wisdom. And finally, turning toward oneself as the richest resource that you have to live into your vision of success in every arena of your life. 


You are invited


Nothing is more important to me than inspiring women to engage in ancient, but completely new ways to approach work, resources, themselves and the world.  For those of you who read, or work with me or land here by chance, I dare you to stop. To drop into your heart. To listen deeply for the wealth of wisdom that is available and to experience the wealth that is you.  


Follow the heartbeat of your deepest wisdom. 


Tell me what you hear, sister, when you heed the call to the feminine path of mastery. 


The Wild Wealth Collective is open for registration

The Wild Wealth Collective is a gathering of smart, soulful women who are committed to a new way of moving through the world.

Are you ready to experience your Wild Wealth?


Posted on October 4, 2016 and filed under Must-Read, Wild Wealth, True Nature, Body Breath Soul.